Myths About Sleep Training

Parenting is a sensitive topic to say the least.  I’m not going to sugar coat it…it’s a minefield of information and misinformation.  It all starts with cute little note cards containing advice from well meaning family and friends at your baby shower.  And, once you’ve given birth you are peppered with questions left and right on if the baby is sleeping before you’ve even had a chance to settle into a new routine at home.  So, as an ode to all of the awful and unsolicited advice offered to new parents, I’m going to now share the most common myths about sleep training.

Your first few weeks of being a parent blessed you with an almost magical baby who slept more hours during the day than were awake.  And rather than taking advice from Aunt Marge to “Sleep When the Baby Sleeps” you would stay awake and admire that beautiful little angel you created for hours on end.  But soon enough, your baby began showing signs of having their days and nights flipped and you found yourself waking more often during the night to have little bonding sessions with your baby.  It’s during these middle of the night powwows…or power feedings that you frantically scroll the internet for advice on how to get your baby to a.) sleep at night (like the rest of the human world), and b.) sleep longer.  And it’s in the process of surfing the web for information, and checking our books on baby sleep (there are A LOT of them, and getting advice from well meaning friends, family, and strangers, you discovered that the wealth of information you were being given was conflicting and more confused than when you first started scrolling.  TAKE A DEEP BREATH, put the bad advice, books, cute note cards containing anecdotes, and bookmarks aside and read on while I debunk common myths about sleep training.

1. If you let your baby sleep too much during the day, it will keep them up at night.

Unlikely, but it does occur on occasion.  Now, if your little one is sleeping through the day and not getting a wink of sleep at night, you may need to  take a look at daytime napping, but again, “sleeping too much” is rarely the case.  In fact, newborns need a lot of sleep (sometimes up to 18 hours of of shut eye per day), and I don’t recommend that your baby be awake for more than 45 minutes to 1 hour at a time as a newborn and up to 2 – 2.5 hours at a time under 6 months of age. 

You might be surprised to learn that overtiredness often keeps babies awake at night because it goes against what we think we know about sleep.  The reality is that an overtired baby has missed falling asleep when they were tired, and their bodies are cycling back into wakefulness.  This is why many overtired babies and small children appear hyper awake or hyperactive when overtired. 

2. Sleeping is a natural development and can’t be taught.

Yeah…kinda/maybe. All humans cycle through sleep stages through the night, waking briefly and falling back asleep each night (over and over).  Yeah…even you and most likely you don’t even remember it happening as you slid right into the next sleep cycle using your super sleep skills on autopilot.  However, babies aren’t born with this ability and can take some time to learn how to smoothly transition between sleep cycles. Some babies will even make noises or briefly cry out when transitioning.

If you’re needing to nurse or rock your baby to sleep, your little one can become dependent on that motion or routine to fall asleep – this is commonly referred to as a sleep prop or a sleep association.   As baby cycles through stages of each sleep cycle and begin “rising to the surface” they wake looking for the same rocking or nursing in order to enter the next sleep cycle (and usually begin crying out for you). An important part of sleep training is to help babies learn how to fall asleep independently. 

3. Babies will naturally dictate their sleep schedule.

In a perfect world, babies would regulate their own sleep needs and always be well-rested; unfortunately this is not the case in the real world.  Much like the constant care babies need with diapers and feeding, they rely on their caregivers to help them develop healthy sleep habits.  Left unregulated, babies’ sleep cycles would become erratic; missing a sleep cycle by just 30 minutes can cause cortisol levels to elevate which is when we experience cranky babies who are overtired and fight going down to sleep. 

4. Sleep training is stressful for the baby and can affect the parent-child attachment.

This is simply not true!  In fact, you may have consulted the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) for information about safe sleep practices, a source I’m sure you trust.  Well, a 2016 study conducted  by the AAP found that “Both graduated extinction and bedtime fading provide significant sleep benefits above control, yet convey no adverse stress responses or long-term effects on parent-child attachment or child emotions and behavior.” And both parents and babies slept better through the night.  WINNING! 

I am also a fan on this June, 2017 article published by Duke Department of Pediatrics regarding myths and facts about sleep training.

5. Babies are not “designed” to sleep through the night.

Sadly, babies don’t come with manuals (wouldn’t that be awesome if they did), so I’m not entirely sure who dictated what babies are or are not “designed” for – seriously! What I can share is that trusting your child’s physiology to dictate their sleep schedule, their eating habits or their behavior is a recipe for disaster.    

Bottom line, you’re obviously reading this for a reason – most likely because you’d like your baby to sleep better (I’d like that too).  I’m here to tell you that I can help you and your baby develop healthy, independent sleep skills that will have the entire family getting restful nights of sleep.  Just click here, book a call with me so I can learn how best I can support you in achieving your sleep goals for your little one.  Let’s get your family better rested for the holidays! 

Sleep Coach’s Corner: How to Have a Happy Halloween and Keep the Sleep Routine

infant sleeping in Halloween costume

Spooky Season is among us!  With the upcoming festivities, you may be stressing about how your child’s new (or maybe not so new) obsession with sugar may have an effect on their sleep.  This Halloween, the only thing you should fear are ghosts and ghouls, not a grumpy child.  Here are some tips to make sure a fun-filled evening doesn’t mess up all of the great progress you’ve made in your child’s sleep routine:

1.  Center the evening plans around your child’s bedtime.  This might mean prepping for an earlier dinner, or having a strict curfew for parties and Trick or Treating.  Pretend like the whole family is Cinderella, and falling behind schedule could turn the whole evening into a pumpkin before you’re safely home.  If you plan ahead, the only thing you’ll have to worry about is having a great time at the ball.

2.  It’s okay to plan to let your child have a later bedtime on special occasions, so long as you leave ample time for their bedtime routine.  Keep in mind, thirty minutes is the most a bedtime can be extended without putting your child into sleep debt.  Anything beyond that can take them three to four days to recover from, leaving you with a zombie-child even after the costume party.

3.  Try to keep the candy consumption to about two pieces on Halloween night.  This way, they’re still having a special treat and getting to celebrate, but they’re not acting like a college freshman on their fifth cup of coffee right before bedtime.  Let’s try to put that off until they’re at least 18…

4.  You might need to luxuriate in this bedtime routine a little longer than usual.   If your kid is riding the wave of a super exciting day, getting them into bed right away can feel like a fantasy.  Maybe you pick a slightly longer book to read, or try out a new, spooky bubble bath…  Choose a part of your regular routine to make a little extra special, and gradually guide your child out of the party-zone and into the sleep-zone.

If you feel like your kid’s sleep habits, or lack thereof, are more of a trick than a treat, call or email me today!  The quickest way to get in touch with me is to schedule a Complimentary Child Sleep Assessment.  Together, let’s turn your child’s spooky sleep habits into a set of serene sleep skills.

5 Reasons to Hire a Sleep Consultant

If you’re here reading this, you’re probably curious about working with a sleep coach. Maybe you’re wondering what it’s like, or you want to know how it works. Or, perhaps you’re at your wits-end and hiring a sleep coach is your plan Z. Whatever the case, welcome! Here are five reasons to contact me today.

You’ve read all the books

A common thread with my clients – apart from them wanting healthy sleep – is that they’ve read all of the books and blogs and maybe even tried bits and pieces of plans, but nothing’s worked. When you’re sleep-deprived, putting together a sleep plan or following scattered bits of advice is daunting and often confusing. Working with a pediatric sleep consultant is like having a personal baby sleep decoder, streamlining things and devising a custom plan just for you.

You’re ready to transition

Whether you’re weaning your little from nighttime feedings or ready to transition from your cosleeping arrangement, you need help with creating a plan. This is where I come in and shine – I’ve helped hundreds of little ones establish healthy sleep routines throughout transitions, whether it’s dropping a nap or sleeping independently.

You need someone with experience

This isn’t my first (or second or third) rodeo. Over the past nine years, I’ve helped over 900 little people achieve healthy sleep and develop long-term sleep habits. I would love to include you in my family of happy and healthy sleepers!

You need motivation and support

Three days into your plan, nothing’s working – you’re ready to give up. No! You’re almost there, and I’m here to motivate you to keep up the routine and support you until it sticks and your little one is sleeping like a champ. In my experience, some babies take a week to two weeks to fall into the rhythm of their new sleep routine. I’m here to see it through with you and to provide tips along the way.

You need customized support

No two babies are alike, nor are family schedules. The beauty of working with me as your sleep coach is that I create a customized plan just for you. We work together to generate sleep schedules and routines that fit in your busy life. Whether you’re a work-at-home mom or reporting to an office each day, we’ll work together to create a unique plan for your family.

You need a plan, not advice

If you’re here checking out my blog, then you’ve likely had conversations with well-meaning family and friends about your baby’s sleep (or lack thereof). I’m sure you’ve gotten well-intentioned advice or just comments about how your cousin’s children were all great sleepers. None of it is especially helpful, and even those bits of advice that seemed promising haven’t panned out. 

When you hire a sleep consultant, you don’t get tips to try and see if they stick. Instead, you get a plan from someone who’s worked with hundreds of babies and has seen a wide range of little sleepers. You receive a schedule with times and details, walking you through setting and establishing a healthy sleep routine. I’m available throughout the process for motivation, support, and troubleshooting along the way. 
So, what are you waiting for? Schedule your complimentary 15-minute assessment today!

Tips From the Sleep Consultant: Sleepovers at the Grandparents’

Whether your little one successfully went through sleep training, or you’re looking for a bit of incentive to get to the other side, today’s blog is about sleepovers at grandma and grandpa’s house. Don’t worry, if the mere thought of it makes you gasp, whether in disbelief or in wonderment, I’m here to reassure you that a well-rested baby means more options. Check out these tips for sleepovers with the grandparents.

You deserve it

When tired parents contact me for help sleep training their little ones, their major motivation is to get more sleep. And once that significant hurdle is tackled, parents begin seeing the possibilities a healthy sleeper brings. When was the last time you had a date night?

A commonality I see among parents of fussy sleepers is that they’ve not had time away on their own. Date night’s tough to pull off when your baby doesn’t sleep, making it difficult to leave them with a sitter. However, once you get your little one in a solid routine, you’ll be able to enjoy the occasional date night and allow the grandparents to finally have the overnight visit they’ve been requesting. 

Coach your parents

Look, you’ve gone to great lengths to get your baby into a solid routine – protect it. Before you leave your bundle of joy with the doting grandparents, let them know how vital baby’s bedtime routine is. An extra hour of cuddles and kisses can easily translate into a sleepless night for grandma and grandpa. So make sure you emphasize why your baby’s routine is essential and walk them through the process. If you’ve kept your nighttime routine simple, it should be easy to impart the bath, book, bed schedule, making the handoff as smooth as an Olympic relay.

Respect the parenting veterans

Be careful not to cross the line from coaching your parents in baby’s bedtime routine into sounding like more of a parenting authority than them. Remember that your parents or in-laws have more parenting experience than you or your partner. They’ve already made it through the baby years successfully. This is where a little reverse psychology can come in handy, especially when you’re sharing baby’s routine. If the grandparents express doubts or confusion with the schedule, reassure them. Tell them that you’re confident they can handle the routine, especially since they’re veterans!

Be honest

There’s no such thing as a perfect parent. The more you share how much you struggled when your little one wasn’t sleeping, the more likely you are to reinforce the reasons why your routine needs to stay in place, even while at grandma’s house. 

On the flip side, acknowledge how tempting it is to pick up a sleeping baby for extra cuddles. However, those sleep interruptions have consequences. It can turn a pleasant overnight visit into time placating a grumpy baby. Not to mention that picking up a tired and fussy baby the next day will make you reluctant to do future overnight stays.

Use the sleeping-feeding connection

No grandmother likes to see a hungry baby – or a hungry anyone for that matter! When was the last time she sent you home with leftovers? Exactly. So, emphasize baby’s routine by equating sleep with feeding. They wouldn’t want their grandchild to go hungry, so why would they want them to go without sleep? More importantly, if sleep is another basic need, as critical as food and nourishment, why would they deprive them of that? 

It may sound extreme, but some parents have stubborn, set-in-their-ways parents who need more convincing. If that’s you, feel free to equate sleep with food to drive your point home!

Keep calm

Prepare yourself for things to go differently at the grandparents’ than at home. Realize that grandma and grandpa are likely to break some of the rules and routines you’ve worked so hard to establish, but it’s not the end of the world. One night of being rocked to sleep or falling asleep in grandma’s arms typically won’t derail a carefully laid routine.

On the same note, realize that your parents will likely respond to your little one if they cry during the night. And it’s a natural response to give a baby a bottle when they’re crying in the night as a way to calm them back to sleep. Again, this night feeding shouldn’t throw your little one’s routine entirely off. Babies are remarkably resilient and have an uncanny way of reading their environment. They instinctively know that being snuggled to sleep by grandma doesn’t mean that mom or dad will do that at home. 

Still struggling to cobble together a routine? Or are you wistfully thinking about what it will be like when your little one can stay over at the grandparents’ house? I can help! Schedule a complimentary phone consultation today.

Sleep Coach’s Corner: Keeping Your Cool

If you have school-aged children, the COVID-19 shutdown may have elevated or heightened stressors as you attempted to juggle home, work, and school. And with summer break comes the added intensity of juggling summer schedules and taking advantage of warmer temps with recreation. Today’s Sleep Coach’s Corner talks about the importance of keeping your cool.

Mothers in crisis

While this scenario applies to all parents, it’s been undeniable that moms are burned out in this country due to the pandemic. The New York Times printed an article with the headline, “America’s Mothers Are in Crisis,” in which this statement stood out:” The economic disaster of the pandemic is directly related to maternal stress levels, and by extension, the stress levels of American children.”

Let’s take a moment to unpack that statement. Being a mom or a full-time caregiver to children is often stressful. Add a full-time job, household duties, and a pandemic to the mix, and we’re at a boiling point. Even the calmest of moms have found themselves reaching breaking points under the pressures of the pandemic. 

You’ve got to keep your cool.

Like mother, like father, like child

When you were pregnant, you may have heard people say that a stressed mom makes for a stressed-out baby. And while it’s easy to brush this seemingly wives’ tale off, the science behind the statement is genuine.

Trust me, I know throwing out a casual statement like “You’ve got to keep your cool” seems flippant and is equally easier said than done – I’ve been there. The first few weeks of summer break are a big adjustment for myself and my daughters, as all of us have to negotiate the ins and outs of having our regular routines abruptly change. Add frustration on top of that, and you get siblings bickering which, in turn, stresses me out – it becomes a vicious cycle of frustration.

In a combined effort, Pennsylvania State University, the University of California – Los Angeles, and the University of California – Riverside conducted a Collaborative Family Study and released findings in 2016. The study included children between ages three and nine and their parents. Parents completed questionnaires regarding stress and stressors, and researchers observed the children’s behavior during an in-home or research center evaluation. Researchers found a direct correlation between parental stress and child behavioral problems. As stressors increased, behavior problems escalated, and when stress levels decreased, behavior problems dissipated. 

No one’s perfect

I share this information as a fellow parent, as prone to stress as every other parent out there. It’s not realistic to think that parenting will be a stress-free endeavor. But, it’s essential to be mindful of how your stress affects your little ones.

As a sleep coach, the relational impact of parental stress on children is significant in the sleep training process. While no one’s life will ever be devoid of any potential stressors, families planning on undertaking sleep training must be in a good space. Understandably, many parents are sleep deprived and at their wits’ end when they contact me, but I encourage them – and you – to be calm as you enter into the baby sleep training process. 

The calmer and more confident you are entering toddler sleep training, the smoother the transition will be. Keeping your stress levels down will help keep your little one calmer through the process. Remember, sleep training is about changing habits, and change can be difficult for anyone, no matter how young or old. The more confident you are going in, the better your results will be on the other side.
If the thought of attempting sleep training on your one is stressful, consider calling me for support. I’m not called a sleep coach for nothing! Schedule a complimentary sleep assessment to see if sleep training is the right fit for your family – I look forward to speaking with you!

Sleep Consultant Tips: Summer Sleep Schedules

How’s your sleep schedule going? It’s easy to fall into the relaxed pace of summer, especially now that pandemic restrictions are easing up and more places are open to explore. However, you don’t want to ease out of routines and consistency because it can be the fast track to a miserable summer…or fall when back-to-school rolls around. So today, I’m talking about staying on track with summer sleep schedules.

Extended daylight hours

One of the greatest things about the summer months is the number of daylight hours we enjoy. Extended daylight hours mean we’re able to enjoy outdoor time later in the evening on work nights. This may be great for us adults, who relish long summer evenings, but these extended hours can wreak havoc on your little one’s sleep.

To avoid sleep disruptions, try to keep to your baby’s regular sleep schedule throughout the summer months. The reality is that you’ll be able to enjoy the long summer nights even more, knowing that your baby is sound asleep. On the flip side, the farther your stray from baby’s bedtime routine, the less time you’ll have to relax in the evening – you’ll find that extra time spent trying to get your little one to sleep (and that’s stressful). 

If you’ve already followed my advice for creating the perfect sleep environment, your little one should be set for summer sleep. If you’ve not, I’ve got two hints for you: cool and dark. Naturally, you want to keep your little one’s room cool, and if you add a fan to help, you have the bonus of white noise. To keep the room dark, add room darkening shades or blackout blinds; while black trashbags help in a pinch, you can find blackout shades for under $10 at home improvement stores.

Summer travel

Lazy, late beach mornings and late-night boardwalk outings are some of what vacation is all about. Vacation’s a time when we can relax and enjoy our time from the everyday hustle and bustle, and summer road trips are the perfect opportunity to reconnect with your family. However, relaxed schedules can often derail ironclad sleep routines, so be careful.

Plan for daytime naps. Once your little one loses their nap schedule, all bets are off. Instead of pushing through or past naptimes, try to plan your vacation activities around the snooze times. If you’re away from your hotel or house rental, make sure you create an area conducive to napping. In a pinch, you can do a stroller nap, steering away from a lot of noise and activity. A shaded stroller, a clip fan, and a white noise app can help create an on-the-go napping environment. Ideally, however, you’ll plan to be at your home-away-from-home base for naptimes.

If you’re planning something more than a road trip, you’ll want to factor in time zone changes, jet lag, and plane cabin pressure (especially with your littles). But, more than anything, you want to have a plan before you travel. When you have a strategy in place, it makes it easier to stay on track and enjoy your vacation.

Enjoy the sunlight

If the outdoors is your happy place, it’s not a coincidence. Sunlight, or vitamin D, exposure triggers the release of serotonin, which brings us to our calm and happy place. The same is true for kids. So, while temperatures may soar in the summer months, get your little ones outside. Not only will they benefit from the fresh air and sunlight, but their sleep will fare better as well.

Start back to school preparation early

If you’ve got school-aged children, then you know how lax summer sleep schedules can create a hurdle when it comes time to go back to school. So if you’ve shifted bedtime a little later, begin moving it earlier weeks before school starts, so it’s not such a shock to the system.


As always, consistency is vital. However, if you need help finding a sleep schedule that works for your little one or your toddler’s sleep got off-track this summer, I’m here to help! Schedule your complimentary sleep assessment today.

Sleep Coach’s Corner: Is There an Iron and Sleep Connection?

Today we’re taking a dive into research. More specifically, the correlation between iron levels and restless baby sleep. So, if you have a restless sleeper and nothing you’ve tried seems to work, read on.

Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional, nor do I claim to be one. The content in this blog is from a trusted authority but is speculative in nature.

Restless baby

In my decade as a sleep consultant, I’ve fielded hundreds of questions from tired parents. However, when parents come to me with a restless baby, I’m the one asking lots of questions. The reason why I ask so many questions is to help determine whether baby sleep or toddler sleep issues are because of dependency on a sleep prop or if there’s something else at work. (If you’re unfamiliar with the term sleep prop, it’s used to describe something a baby or toddler depends on to fall asleep, such as a pacifier, rocking, or breastfeeding.)

Sleep prop dependency is relatively easy to overcome and can usually be solved within a week or two of consistent bedtime routines. In fact, the majority of restless sleepers are traced back to sleep props causing disruption. However, every once in a while, I come across a restless baby sleep case without props to blame. Some babies and toddlers are just restless sleepers, just like children and adults who flail, toss, and turn in their sleep. This is where speculation comes in, so bear with me.

Sleep research

Yes, there’s such a thing as the World Sleep Congress. The World Sleep Congress is an annual gathering organized by the World Sleep Society, where researchers and scientists across the globe come to share research and studies on everything relating to sleep. And in 2019, I heard musings about a theory – scientists posit that there is a correlation between iron deficiency and restless sleep.

In fact, there are studies showing a correlation between iron deficiency and restless sleep in children dating back to 1969. You may already be familiar with Restless Leg Syndrome (RLS); perhaps you or someone in your family has RLS. If you’re reading this because your little one is a restless sleeper, they may suffer from periodic limb movements and involuntary movements during sleep.

Mayo Clinic linked RLS in children to a family history of the syndrome and iron deficiency in a 2005 study. And circling back to the 1969 study, researchers found that periodic limb movement lessened in 19 of 28 patients after receiving a serum containing iron. 

So, back to those restless sleepers. If you’ve got a restless baby, and nothing has worked to help them get a solid night of sleep, the research indicates that it may be worth asking your pediatrician to test iron levels. 

And, if you’re one of the many parents out there with a baby who is reliant on a sleep prop, or you simply need help coming up with a nap and bedtime schedule that works for your family, I’m here to help! Schedule your complimentary sleep assessment today!

Sleep Consultant Tips: Physical Activity and Pediatric Sleep

I think it’s safe to say that the COVID-19 pandemic has affected everyone in this country, whether you or a family member contracted the virus or how your daily life has changed in response. At the outset, one of the ways the pandemic changed daily lives for those with children was the very real quarantine that occurred. Today I’m talking about the role of physical activity in pediatric sleep.

Pandemic and reduced activity

Just over a year ago, the country ground to a halt. Schools and daycares closed, and people were told to quarantine at home, limiting their contact with others. In addition to this quarantine, businesses were forced to close, and playgrounds across the country were closed, some even taped-off; most parents would likely have been scared to bring their children to playgrounds, even if they were open.

News reports and state departments of health warned families against meeting with other groups outside their household. As a result, many children who frequently played with friends and others outside their home were left without playmates or outlets for exercise. And for parents trying to juggle the obligations of family with those of work, the lack of daycare meant that they needed to juggle working from home and keeping their toddlers active and engaged

School-age children lost gym class and recess, and club and school sports were canceled. This left children of all ages without any physical outlet for their sometimes endless energy reserves. Paired with the stress of the disruption of everyday life, it’s understandable that many children have developed sleep issues in the past year.

Link between physical activity and pediatric sleep

Studies have shown a correlation between physical activity and sleep quality in children for years, but the outcome may be surprising to you. While I’d like to say that more exercise during the day means your little one will sleep better at night, that isn’t definitive. In fact, the association between physical activity and sleep is largely a matter of genetics and circumstance, and as with anything in life, there are always exceptions to the rule.

On average, most children will benefit from thirty to sixty minutes of physical activity per day. This means they will have sufficiently tapped into energy reserves and will have tired their bodies to a point where they fall asleep relatively quickly at bedtime and sleep well. However, you know your child best, so if you’re finding that your kiddo is having a difficult time after getting adequate exercise during the day, you may need to play with their schedule a bit.

Takeaways

One of the biggest takeaways from studies of the physical activity and pediatric sleep association is that moderate exercise during the day can help your child fall asleep faster. Too much exercise and you might find that your kiddo is wired when it comes to bedtime. This energy surge is due to the body releasing cortisol to provide a burst of energy; it’s a survival mechanism that engages when the body is overtired. This can start a cycle of poor sleep marked with fatigue or less physical exercise throughout the day and poor sleep at night. 

If you’ve ever traveled with your little ones, you’ve likely experienced the sleep cycle I’m talking about. Let’s take Disney World as an example. Your little ones spend an exciting, yet long, day in the park – it’s magical, after all! When you get back to your hotel, your kiddos are quite literally bouncing off the walls. You’re exhausted, and you expected them to conk out as well. What you’re witnessing are the effects of being overtired. 

The best way to master the physical activity and pediatric sleep connection is with balance and moderation. Moderate exercise can help most children fall asleep faster at bedtime. An abundance of exercise can wreak havoc and launch your little one into a vicious cycle of sleep deprivation and over- or under activity. 

If you’re having trouble finding balance, reach out to me! I’m happy to hop onto a complimentary 15-minute phone consultation to see if my services are a good fit for your child’s sleep struggles.

Tips From the Sleep Consultant: Let’s Cut the Guilt

If you’ve ever spent time in parenting groups, you’re sure to know what I’m referring to in this blog title – parent guilt, mom shaming, mom guilt. Whatever you want to call it, it’s pervasive and is damaging to new parents. As a sleep consultant, I don’t condone judgment of any kind – my career is built around helping struggling parents, not judging them or their parenting skills.

Be wary of internet experts

When I see articles from “experts” slamming the notion of self-soothing, I take concern. Even more alarming is that these articles and blogs instill fear in new parents who are desperate for solutions and undermine what I stand for. When some internet experts get large enough platforms, they can do real damage to parents who need help.

Every time I come across these articles – that are doing exactly what they claim articles of the opposite viewpoint are doing (fanning the flames of fear) – it breaks my heart. Once upon a time, I was a first-time mommy who was sleep-deprived, riddled with tremendous anxiety all the time, and just generally miserable. I was a boat taking on water fast with no rescue in sight. It’s a difficult place to be in. What got me through was a support team of friends, family, and professionals who never judged, who offered me advice when asked, and THAT made all the difference. And that is what I try to do for every family I support. 

How I work

Despite what some of these inflammatory internet articles tell you, I’m not a monster selling snake oil. If you’ve stumbled across this blog, you’re likely in search of answers for sleep issues your baby or toddler is experiencing. The first thing I want to tell you is that you’re not alone. In fact, almost every parent who contacts me is in a state of sleep exhaustion, is anxious, and is genuinely concerned for their child’s wellbeing. You only need to read a little about health to know that sleep is essential for people of all ages, from infants to adults. 

The second thing I want you to know is that I use the Sleep Sense™ program, which is a straightforward, tried and true method for teaching little ones how to go to sleep – and sleep through the night – independently. The program I use isn’t about making babies cry themselves to sleep or cracking a whip until they learn to self-soothe. 

Speaking of self-soothing – a concept many internet experts take issue with – we can call it something different if you like. Perhaps it’s the term people take issue with? Whatever the case, when you work with me to sleep train your baby, you learn how to provide consistent sleep cues for your little one, and they learn how to recognize sleep cues (through routine) and how to transition through sleep cycles themselves.

The beauty of choice

One of the reasons I maintain this blog is to provide information for struggling parents and give them a glimpse of what it’s like to work with me – in a no-pressure environment. If you like what you see after glancing through my blog, you can schedule a complimentary 15-minute call with me to talk about what you’re experiencing and see if I can help. Again, there’s no obligation to work with me, and I absolutely won’t tell you to do something you’re uncomfortable with.  

Again, no one should be forcing anyone to do anything or go against beliefs or comfort. And articles shaming parenting techniques do exactly that in an underhanded, passive-aggressive way.  

I’ll get off my soapbox now and go back to supporting the families who came to me for help. That’s what I do… it’s my mission.

Sleep Coach’s Corner: Let’s Huddl!

I’m taking a moment today to talk about something other than baby sleep training tips. But trust me, it’s related! While I’m a sleep coach, I’m also a human, and the pandemic isolation was something I struggled with as a very social person. I’m an extrovert, and I really enjoy meeting new people – this is part of why my career centers around people! So, I took to the internet to explore new ways of socializing, and I stumbled across a fantastic platform that allows me to connect with different people across the globe and help struggling families – win-win! Let’s talk about huddls.

What is huddls?

At its most basic, huddls is a safe virtual meeting space designed to connect people; it was developed during the initial pandemic quarantine. If you’re already familiar with Cameo, a platform for people to purchase recorded messages from their favorite celebrities and personalities, you have an idea of what huddls is. But, instead of getting a prerecorded message, you’re able to interact with people in real-time. This is perfect for quelling pandemic-induced stress and anxiety and provides a great – socially distanced – social outlet.

You’re probably wondering where I come in. Well, huddls is branching out into connecting people with experts to receive advice and consultations, in addition to socializing.

How I use huddls

Huddls allows me to offer quick consultations or ask the expert services for those clients who don’t need an entire sleep training package but need quick, topical assistance. It also allows me to offer seminars I used to conduct in-person through a safe, secure platform. 

How you can use huddls

Huddls experiences are perfect for those who’ve already gone through sleep training with their little one or those whose rockstar sleepers are experiencing consistent sleep disruptions. Maybe you’ve tried transitioning your little one from two naps down to one, and it’s just not working out. Or, your toddler is suddenly waking at 3 a.m. each morning, ready for the day. You can book an experience to get advice from me about overcoming some of the most common sleep hurdles. 

Sometimes, sleep training issues are more complex than a 30-minute chat warrants, and I’ll suggest hiring my services to tackle it together. If you end up hiring me, I’ll credit the cost of our huddl experience from your sleep training package.

Connecting through huddls is easy. Visit my huddls profile to view the live experiences I currently offer. Not seeing what you need? You can also click on “Suggest An Experience” to request a personalized chat. Perhaps the best part is that you can team up with your fellow mom friends or mom group to book a live experience with me together. Huddls uses Zoom as its video conferencing platform, so it’s a platform you’re likely already familiar with.

Why I like huddls

Professionally, huddls allow me to connect with my clients more closely than a phone call. I feel like it’s sometimes difficult to feel a genuine person-to-person connection on a phone call, but video calls allow for facial expressions and other nuances lost over the phone.

While I highly recommend trying out the huddls platform to connect with me – I offer free experiences there – I also recommend huddls for anyone struggling with limited socialization outlets while this pandemic continues its course.